Dear dot dot dot,
I’m there for you.
Thank you for opening up to me about your issues with post natal depression and anxiety. Thank you.
I know it won’t have been easy to admit this to me, it’s a subject people see as a dirty little secret, and the word “mental” associated with mad, But it’s one of the bravest and strongest things you’ve done and I appreciate your honesty with me.
I want you to know that I’m there for you.
I told you that you were part of a club now; one which neither of us want to be in.
You’re a new member whereas I have had my membership card for many years. Remember though, we’re in this club together and in a club, we support each other.
We meet up, we talk, we do things that make us happy and surround ourselves with who we want.
You won’t want to see anyone one day and then the next you won’t want to be alone.
We listen, we care and we don’t judge. I’m there for you.
There will be dark days and light days. I can’t tell you when those days are, they can happen when you’re least expecting it or when you as mentally prepared as you can possibly be, but I’m there for you when they come along.
Your anxiety isn’t my anxiety, hence we can get through this together.
You’ll learn quickly who in your life is meant to be in your life. The ones who you want to spend time with, and those you’re wasting your time with.
You’ll learn new skills to put in your war chest of emotions. You will prepare yourself for battle, but sometimes your shields will be down. Whether you’re battling or recovering, I’m there for you.
You’ll wake up and won’t want to get up. It will take all of your effort to start your day, but you will get up.
Somehow you will do it, because then you have the opportunity to have another day to live.
You will feel alone, that nobody understands you, and you will surround yourself in a pool of tears. This is okay.
You will get through this, and there’s no time limit saying how long you have to take.
It’s your anxiety therefore you can take control of it. How you control it is the mission.
Anxiety is the uninvited guest to the party, who rocks up when you don’t want it to. It will gate-crash the fun, the excitement and it will be out of control.
Remember two is company. Three is a crowd.
So I end this letter to you with the simple message that whenever you need me, or whenever you want me……
I’m there for you.