I often hear the question “Are you happy?”
I don’t like it. It’s like asking how long a piece of string is.
Don’t get me wrong. Yes I like things that give me that happy feeling, but am I happy? As in have I achieved my limit of happiness and this where I shall stay?
No, that’s ridiculous!!! How can I have achieved happiness when I have so much more to experience? Ok yes, maybe if I’m lying on my deathbed with my last breath I might say “Yes I’m happy”, but for me happy is a continual process.
Happy isn’t just a destination, a thing, a feeling, an emotion or whatever you define it to be. It’s a mixture of all those things.
It’s the big and the small, and it’s those moments that suddenly you look back at and go “Yes, that was happiness”
People continually ask themselves “Why can’t I be happy?” or “I wish I was happy”.
Well there is that possibility of you actually finding it, you’re probably just not looking in the right place. Happy isn’t like being given an injection or (if like me and you’ve watched the film Trolls a million times) you don’t get to eat the Troll to be happy!!!
It’s actually looking at your lifestyle, who you are and actually what kind of a life you have. It can be the smallest of things, but because we take them for granted or view them as being part of the “norm”. So we don’t actually realise these are the elements that contribute to our happiness and well being.
To me, it can be things as simple as when the bath water is the perfect temperature when you first put your foot in, or you get to the Post Office and there’s no queue, or the piece of bread you put in the toaster comes out at exactly the right level of crunch.
They’re just small things, and internally I’m doing that little happy dance.
However we probably don’t realise were doing it most of the time
So I decided to write a list of some things that give me that feeling of happiness, some of which are the small, but they all achieve the same goal.
1- A nice cappuccino. (Until I had a child I didn’t drink the stuff, but over the last 5 years I’ve discovered it’s really quite good and on occasion it’s also essential)
2- A beauty treatment (I don’t care what, I just know it’s for me and someone is looking after me)
3- A thoughtful friend ( I love it when people care and do things for others when you wouldn’t expect them to)
4- My size in stock (Doesn’t really matter whether its shoes, clothes, jewellery etc. Just that it’s my size in stock when I’m buying)
5- Veggie Percy Pigs (I’m not a veggie but I just love them, especially when they’ve been in the fridge)
6- My daughter’s “dirty” laugh (The best sound as it’s so infectious. She sounds like Sid James)
7- The sound of my husband’s key in the lock when he comes back from work (It means he’s home & he’s safe. Plus my daughters reaction when she sees him is hilarious; it’s like he is a celebrity)
8- A clean house (It means I can sit down and relax – HA HA HA. I saw a picture a while ago saying “Kids - Clean House - Sanity. Pick 2)
9- Weather that’s perfect for putting washing out on the line ( I love it, as it means I can get all the washing done in one day)
10- Finding a song I love, and playing it over and over and over again (Who doesn’t do this?)
11- A really good sneeze (Especially when it’s been brewing for a while. The satisfaction afterwards is bliss)
12- Being in my thirties (I finally feel like an adult, sort of. Basically I turned 30 and stopped giving such a damn about certain situations)
I could go on more, such as my family, melted cheese, but I’ve given enough for now.
I also did a list of things that I know won’t ever give me that feeling
1- Bullies (What makes you better than me?)
2- Two-Faced people (People who act like they’re your friend, but really they’re not)
3- Weighing scales!!! – Why invent them for people to use? They should only ever be used for baking
4- Milk that has gone off (I know it waits to just turn. Where it turns and when it turns is a mystery)
5- Not being able to tune the radio and getting that white static noise for every station!!! (Because who wants to listen to that)
6- An unexpected bill ( I hate them, especially when it’s for something boring)
7- My size out of stock ( The dream has been taken away)
8- My car surviving on fumes for petrol (It’s working out the logistics and how far you can travel to get to the petrol station without breaking down lol)
9- Lots of questions (The type that just lead to more questions and keep going on and on and on. Sometimes people need to just shush)
10- Un thoughtful people ( People who don’t care about others or have any thought for others)
So here are a couple of lists of things in my life that make me…..well…..me.
Give it a try write your own lists and hopefully you’ll start to realise that you do have things that can contribute to your own interpretation of happy.